067 Getting Personal: What’s Not Invited into 2025

In this episode of the Strong Bones Coach Podcast, Carly gets personal about what she’s choosing to leave behind as she steps into 2025. 

Reflecting on her growth over the last few years, Carly dives into the things she’s no longer inviting into her life... perfectionism, comparison, and the fear of not being good enough. 

She opens up about her personal stories, including past struggles with crash diets, burnout, and losing touch with her inner voice.

This episode is all about embracing the messy middle, showing up as your real self, and finding the courage to release what no longer serves you. 

Join Carly as she shares powerful reflections and insights on how to step into a new year with intention, authenticity, and self-compassion.

Tune in for a dose of real talk and find out what Carly is leaving behind as she embraces a more aligned, balanced future.

If you’re ready to step into 2025 with clarity and confidence, Carly also invites you to check out her Connect and Thrive in 25 offer, or book a free Clarity Call to explore how you can make 2025 your year of growth and alignment.

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Transcript

Carly: 0:37

Hello and welcome back to the Strong Bones Coach podcast and happy new year everybody. So this is the first episode of 2025 and I'm here to create a space where we celebrate strength, physical, mental and emotional. And today I want to dive into something that I've been thinking about a lot lately, especially as we have been approaching the new year. So, you know, the beginning of the new year or the beginning of any year can often feel like a time to reset a time when we might feel pressure to start fresh. Often with the idea that we need to reinvent ourselves that has quite. For some time being the traditional way of looking at things with the calendar that we operate with. But what if we don't need to reinvent the wheel completely? What if we could simply remove the things that don't serve us and give ourselves permission to have more space to thrive as we are? So if you tuned into last week's episode, you might remember I spoke about how I prefer a gentle discovery of who we really are as part of evolving and growing through life, rather than feeling the need to totally reinvent ourselves to become a completely different person. So in today's episode, we're going to explore What I'm not inviting into 2025 and how that's helped me shift into a more balanced, sustainable way of living. Well, that's my aim anyway. So let's get into it. My five things I'm not inviting into 2025. So these are things I'm gonna be leaving behind to make room for more growth, joy, and balance. Mm-hmm So first up, we have crash diets, so we know the drill, restrict, deprive, punish ourselves in the name of health I've been there. Many times, and over the years, I've fallen into the trap of many extreme diets, trying to fix what I thought was wrong with my body. And that's been down to a lot of conditioning, a lot of prior experience, ways of living passed down from previous generations. But, whatever the reason, that has all passed now. It's been a good few years since I let go of that mindset, thankfully, and this is where I would use dieting as a way of trying to control my body or fill an emotional gap, and I know I'm not alone here. I know many women go through this, perhaps you've been through this too if you're listening into this, but there are times even now when external factors in my life pull me toward those dieting thoughts, they still pop up, but I've learned the hard way that When we make those changes to our diet, it needs to come from a place of self compassion, curiosity, with some helpful but strong boundaries. So let me take you back to 2018 for a minute. That's looking back a bit. At this time I made some pretty drastic dietary changes. This time though it was all out of curiosity about how I could nourish my body, not about trying to fix something that wasn't really broken. But it was a time when I did need to make some radical changes. So when I say we make gentle changes and we work with the evolution of ourselves, it doesn't mean we can't make big changes. But when I did this, it came from a place of self love, of curiosity and listening to my body, something that I really hadn't done before. And what I've learned is that Is that when making these changes, we have to keep ourselves physically and emotionally safe. So having come from many years of disordered eating, having received treatment for eating disorders, but also finding myself in a place where my health would benefit from fat loss. I needed to take this gently. I needed to be careful and mindful of how I went about this and to check that I truly was ready to step into these changes. Because, let's face it, our bodies are not just projects to fix, it's where we live. They're our home. It's a place that we can nurture ourselves and honour our needs. And that is something I've held on to every day since realising this. so in 2025, I'm not inviting in those quick fixes or drastic restrictions. I'm all about nourishing my body and maintaining balance. Now let's move on to number two. Pushing through burnouts. Now I'll be honest, I have spent the last year recovering from quite a deep burnout. It wasn't something I saw coming, probably because I didn't want to see it. I've always loved what I do, and as someone who works for themselves, it's so easy to just keep going and going, thinking that if I just do more, I'll get closer to where I need to be. But I did learn the hard way. That rest is just as important as action. But I had totally lost touch with the fact that you can't just push through indefinitely. So yes, there are times to work hard, but there are also times to rest and recover. It's basically a cycle I've come to learn. So now I give myself grace. I've slowed down, I've learned to ask for help, and let me tell you, this has been an absolute game changer. This lesson has helped me build a coaching practice that is far more mindful of my own energy. I now see the value of working more in flow, balancing faster and slower paces depending on what I need. Breathwork and mind body awareness are now two. Of my most important tools I use with my clients and myself to stay grounded into all of this. And now I'm much more in tune with my body. I've learned that rest and recovery are just as important as taking action. So in 2025, I'm listening to my body, slowing down when needed and practicing plenty of self compassion. And when it is time for that push, I get to enjoy it. So the third thing that is not allowed into 2025 is ignoring my inner voice. So this also ties into burnout. And it's a really important point. For so long, I ignored my inner voice. Those cues my body and mind were giving me about what I needed. I wasn't listening to what I truly required. Constantly focusing on messages from outside myself, from what other people say is the right thing to do, from what the latest trend is, what seems to be working for everybody else. But when we look outside of ourselves, whoops. It often can lead us down a path that really doesn't align to what we need. And when we start to ignore our own inner knowing, it can lead us into quite a lot of trouble as you've heard from my burnout experience. So this is where Breathwork and that Mind Body Awareness have been so supportive in helping me reconnect my needs. So this is why I now guide my clients in tuning in to their own needs too. We really need to hear our inner voice to navigate the twists and turns of life, because without that connection, it's easy to get lost or overwhelmed. So this year, I'm focusing on listening to myself. Being more attuned to what my body and mind need. I'm continuing to honor that. Number four, perfectionism is the fourth thing that is not invited into my year this year. And it's still something I'm working on. But it really is time to release the idea that everything has to be perfect. The way I held myself back in the past from sharing my thoughts, insights with the world, all because I thought they just weren't good enough. It's a habit I really want to leave behind. And I guess sticking with bringing you this podcast each and every week has been quite a helpful practice for me to do this too. Because there is no perfect time or perfect way to show up. The messy middle really is where the magic happens. and I am doing my best to embrace the messy, real version of myself. No more holding back for fear of not being perfect. And I guess saying this on here is perhaps a little accountability for myself. So feel free to call me out if you ever think I'm not doing this. And finally, number five. I am letting go and uninviting comparison culture. It's so easy to get caught up in what others are doing, especially with social media showing us so much, so much of what we want to see, of what we might aspire to. And I'm not against social media. I feel it's really connected us more than ever before. But it can have its downsides too, and I have fallen into the trap of comparing my chapter one to everyone else's chapter 20, and allowing myself to feel inadequate, like I'm not measuring up along the way. So this type of thinking, as you can imagine, has played a big part in my burnout as well. I've had to work really hard on regulating myself, focusing on my values, and not getting lost in what others are doing too. So this is still very much a work in progress. But I've learned that the key to thriving is focusing on what makes sense for me, not worrying about what everyone else is doing and how that's working out for them. Because here's the truth. Everyone is on their own journey as much as we're not alone, we still have our individual experiences, our individual lessons, and I'm learning to focus more on what makes sense for me. And let's just stop worrying about what other options I have. There's always time to take another option. So in 2025, I am tuning and focusing on my values, how I want to show up in the world, I'm trying my best not to measure myself against someone else's markers for success. It truly is time to stop allowing comparison to steal my joy. So instead, I'm going to let my journey unfold one step at a time. And this is something I want for you too. So there you have it, five things I'm not inviting into 2025. Crash diets, burnout, Ignoring my inner voice, perfectionism and comparison culture. These are things I've really had enough of and I'm ready to move forward with a clearer, more aligned focus. So I encourage you to have a think about this too. What you're ready to leave behind, what patterns, beliefs or habits no longer being helpful for you. What do you need to let go of in order to make room for more growth, self compassion, more alignments. And remember. You don't need to completely reinvent yourself, just let go of what isn't helping. 2025 is all about embracing who you are and honouring your own journey. And if you need some extra clarity on how you can do this for yourself, I would love to help you. You can book a free 30 minute clarity call with me, where I'll untangle your thoughts, set realistic next steps, and talk about how you can feel more empowered and aligned this year, and every year after that too. Well, you can ask me about my new offer, Connect and Thrive in 25, a 25 day journey into discovering your own aligned foundations for health and wellness in 2025 and beyond. So if you feel called to explore either of those options, you'll find the links to both of these in the show notes at CarlyKillen. com. So thank you again for being part of the Strong Bones Coach podcast. Here's to a more balanced, beautiful and strong new year ahead. Until next time, stay strong and take care.